There are a zillion different ways to structure a membership.
Wanna know why I created mine the way I did? Focused around niche subgroups of stepmoms?
Simple: Because it's long overdue.*
Even among other women who've said "yes" to this truly unique life, I know there are stepmoms who feel overlooked + misunderstood.
When that little TikTok I filmed in the post office parking lot last summer blew up, driving thousands of stepmoms to my account and hundreds to my email inbox, you wanna guess who some of the most vulnerable messages came from?
The stepmoms who felt acknowledged for the first time.
So, as I scrambled to reply to every email, I took note of the patterns that were emerging. And when I sat down to sketch out the plans for The Stepmom Sessions membership, I pulled out those notes and began creating a group for each type of stepmom who'd written to me.
Maybe you're one of them?
Which of these describes you best?
A) The new stepmom who's drowning in a cesspool of overwhelm + (mis?)information.
"I've got incredible family and friends, and not ONE of them can relate to the life I've opted into."
"The bitterness I encountered when I searched for stepmom help online scared the crap out of me. Is ANYONE happy in this role??"
"How fast is too fast? How close should the kids and I be by now? Is my partner's relationship with the ex normal? I'm a bottomless pit of questions and I'm not even sure I can trust the answers I'm finding...!"
B) The childless or childfree stepmom navigating a world built for parents.
"I'm relied on for SO MUCH but I'm also "clueless" because I'm not a mother. The double standard is so F#&%ing insulting."
"I'm on my 2nd round of IVF. Sometimes it kills me to even hear my stepson's footsteps coming down the hall."
"I genuinely love my stepkids. They're the only kids I'll ever have, probably, and I'm learning to make my peace with that..."
C) The grieving stepmom who feels utterly invisible in her pain.
"We haven't seen my stepdaughters in 18 months. The grief is almost unbearable."
"No one really gets the stepmom role anyway. Why bother trying to explain how much it hurts to be losing it in the divorce?"
"I know I'm one of the lucky ones. We're a happy stepfamily. So, why do I feel like I'm mourning the ghost of my old life?
D) The full-time / primary caregiver stepmom who’s functioning in this role round-the-clock.
"My stepchild lives with me and sees his mom just a few times a year. I find it hard to find other stepmoms who can relate."
"I became a full-time stepmom of 3, practically overnight, when their mom passed away. The guilt I feel giving them even the smallest consequence is so intense…"
"My husband travels most weekdays for work and the kids are with us most of the time while their mom is in treatment. So, I’m the go-to parenting figure and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done.”
D) None (or several!) of the above. If you don't fit neatly into any of these categories, this membership is for YOU, TOO. Our All-Stepmoms' group sessions will be an excellent place to connect... and we have lots more groups in the works as we speak!
👆 Which one of these describes you best?
I'm here to answer your questions + help you decide if The Stepmom Sessions membership is right for you.
So, hit Reply (or DM me on Instagram) and let me know your answer (A, B, C, D or E) and I'll meet you there. 💖
*BTW: When I point out that many stepmoms feel overlooked in stepmom support spaces, that's not some kind of shot at other folks working in this space. It's a simple observation that, as far as we've come in the past decade, we're still playing catch-up after generations of stigmatizing this role. I'm also aware there may be stepmoms who still feel missed even in the groups I'm offering. If that's you, please hit Reply + share your thoughts, and I'll do my best to help you find what you need.
P.S. Quick reminder that if you're one of the first stepmoms to join me inside The Stepmom Session, there's some extra goodness in it for you:
✨Bonus #1: A 60-min 1:1 coaching call with me!
Join The Stepmom Sessions by next Fri, June 7th (11:59pm PST) and you'll get an hour-long video call with me to talk about any aspect of stepmom life you want.
✨Bonus #2: Bag o' surprise goodies!
Join The Stepmom Sessions TODAY (by Fri, May 31st, 11:59pm PST) and you'll get an hour-long video call w/ me PLUS a fun little package of surprise goodies to celebrate you!
Calls begin next week. What do you say?
New here? Hi, I'm Michaela Bucchianeri, PhD — psychologist + stepmom of 12 years
…and I can’t wait to help you live a stepmom life you love.
Becoming a stepmom rocked my world in just about every way. And while this role brings so much potential for joy and fulfillment… the path to getting there isn't always intuitive.
Now? I'm on a mission to help you create a stepmom identity that's all your own– so you can worry less, shift your energy to whatever lights you up, and start having (way) more fun.
A few places to start:
Join my support group membership for stepmoms. Get unlimited access to 33+ LIVE, facilitated support groups (plus: a variety of monthly + seasonal “pop-up” groups). Stepmom life’s a whole lot easier when you’re not doing it alone!
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Follow me on TikTok. With fresh content (+ live Stepmom Chats) daily, this is where you’ll find all the trending topics, real-time conversations, and library of bite-size resources for stepmoms, all in one place!
To get in touch with me directly, send me a DM or email hello@theanxiousstepmom.com.
I’m so glad you’re here!